The list includes novelty socks, Funko Pops or anything that requires assembly
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A woman on Reddit says that instead of a wishlist this year, she’s giving her mom an anti-list — a list of all the items she doesn’t want to receive on Christmas.
In an anonymous post, the 33-year-old woman writes that she is admittedly “difficult to buy gifts for.”
“I really don’t want more things than I have, I have so much stuff and nowhere to put it as it is (a recent move really opened my eyes to this),” she writes. “Plus, I’m financially stable enough and have cheap enough hobbies that I can usually just buy myself something when I want it.”
After the woman’s mom asked that everyone in the family give her their Christmas lists early, so she can start shopping, the woman writes that she “couldn’t think of much I wanted.”
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“While trying to come up with ideas for things, mostly I just kept dreading all the sorts of things I usually get for Christmas then have to find a place for,” she writes. “I decided to include a list of things not to buy me, figuring that might be as helpful as a list of things I do want. On the list I put things like ‘fun’ socks, Funko Pops, anything I have to assemble aka ‘Merry Christmas, I got you a chore you have to do now,’ throw blankets, jewelry, throw pillows, decorations, etc.”
While she writes that she intended to add a few items she does want later, it was too late. The woman had added the anti-list to a shared family Google doc — and her mom came calling.
“The day after I made the anti-list my mom called asking why I did that and complaining that I never like the gifts she gives me,” she writes. “I have told her in the past I don’t want these things and she’ll remember for a year then buy me a pair of slipper socks the next which then join the four other pairs I already don’t wear. I pointed this out and she complained about how hard it is to buy me gifts and that just getting me gift cards is boring.”
The woman’s mom, she writes, “thinks it’s negative to have the anti-list and wants to delete it but… my brother and his wife have both made anti-lists now, so have an uncle and a cousin. My brother also joked about a secret anti-list for their kids to avoid getting terribly messy or noisy toys.”
The woman’s family as a whole, she adds, is “split” over the issue of anti-lists, though her mom is firmly against it.
Now, the woman wants to know if she’s in the wrong.
Commenters are split over the issue, with some saying it seems that the mom’s love language is gift-giving, and that the woman should just accept a gift and donate it if she doesn’t enjoy it.
Others have suggested the woman add some items she does want, as she originally intended.
“An anti-list is fine as long as there is also a decent do-list to accompany it,” writes one commenter. “Yours is currently incomplete, however, you do intend to go back and add more things. It’s simply a work in progress.”
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