DEAR ABBY: My stepson has invited my husband and me to his home for Thanksgiving this year. After agreeing to go, I found out that the meal will consist of vegetarian lasagna. I feel this is inconsiderate of my stepson and his wife because they know my husband and I have always enjoyed traditional Thanksgiving (including the Thanksgiving meal of roasted turkey). Please, what is your opinion? I feel like it’s just not Thanksgiving without the turkey. — WANTING A FEAST IN THE SOUTH
DEAR WANTING: I’m so glad you asked. The Thanksgiving celebration is a tradition in which families and friends join together to give thanks for being together and enjoy food, friendship and the freedoms we are privileged to have in this country. If you need protein, have some before you go.
EAR ABBY: My husband and I are drafting our wills. Our sticking point is my son’s wife. She has had affairs and spends money like crazy that they don’t have. Is there any way we can shelter from her any inheritance he might receive from us? We considered hiring a private investigator but wouldn’t know what we’d do should a current affair be discovered. We couldn’t tell our son. Please help us decide. — TACTFUL IN TEXAS
DEAR TACTFUL: Because the laws vary from state to state, the person who should answer this question would be your attorney or your CPA. They can advise you on how to word your wills and estate plans.
P.S. Because your daughter-in-law has a history of infidelity, if you hire a P.I. and he or she finds evidence that she’s cheating again, you should let your son know and the context in which the discovery was made.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
