September 21 is World Alzheimer’s Day. Here, author Anthea Rowan explains how she coped with her mother Lala’s memory loss and how it changed their relationship
People asked me afterwards, a little incredulously: “Was it really so sudden?” Yes. One day, late in 2019, between lunch and tea, my mother forgot me. I sat across a table from her at one meal and she was entirely confident who I was. That evening: “Tell me”, she asked, “When did we first meet?”
I thought she was joking. It was clear from her response that she wasn’t. She flatly refused to accept I was her daughter. She insisted she was not old enough to have a daughter my age; she was 78, I was 53. Even when I provided evidence of our relationship — photos of her with me and her parents — she still didn’t believe me. I overheard her checking with others: “Did you know Anthea was my daughter? I wish somebody had told me.”